Ed Latimore is a former professional heavyweight boxer, a competitive chess player, a physicist, a veteran of the U.S. Army National Guard, and a bestselling author. Ed’s writing focuses on self-development, realizing your potential, and sobriety — all of which he approaches from personal experience, having overcome poverty and addiction. Ed is a strongadvocate for sobriety and overcoming pornography addiction and has been sober since 2013. He earned a Physics degree at age33 and is a veteran of The United States Army National Guard. He is also is an avid chess player, having been featured in American Chess Magazine.
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- My coach, Tommy Yankello.
Effect on Emotions
- Things upset me, but I recognize that and I do something about it. I have a lot of strategies to keep myself from ever reaching a point of where the anger is even remotely out of control.
- If I get too angry, my body's not used to the chemical changes that go on when you get angry. I hurt for about a day. My head hurts, I'm on edge, and I feel pain.
Thoughts on Breathing
- When you pay attention to your breathing, your body's going to force you to do it. You can't choke yourself out, right, or hold your breath into oblivion. Calmly use it to put your mind on something.
- You always have your breath and your heart beat, which is kinda related, and that's another automatic system you can put your mind on.
- Book: Not Caring What Other People Think Is a Superpower: Insights From A Heavyweight Boxer by Ed Latimore
- App: The Forest App
- Abuse and picking on the little guy bothers me so much. The only time I ever got in trouble in the military, I watched an officer use his rank to kinda get in front of some people. That bugged me to no end. It took a lot of energy.
- I knew that was a battle that would end badly and would probably cost me.
- I hate when people are picked on who are not strong enough to defend themselves. It think it comes from being a competitor.
- 068 World Class Wrestler Riley Otto
- 101 Olympic Boxer Daniel Hayes
- 167 World Champion Joggler, Gabrielle Foran
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You've written a book called The Four Confidences. So what is confidence? How do you define it?
Confidence is really the ability to act as if what you want is going to occur regardless of the outside conditions that may in fact be to the contrary. It's the ability to move in uncertainty as if you are certain and many people don't have that, they need a guarantee. And the problem with guarantees is, a guarantee is kind of a over-optimization. If we look at action and a longer curve, you can act with very little information, like zero to 10% certainty, or you can act with all of the information like 90 to 100% certainty. When you hear that at first, it seems like the former is unfavorable and the latter is the one that you want to aim for, but really no. Neither of those work because the best opportunities in life come from moving, when everyone else is kind of not sure when to move.
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And once that certainty is there, then the market becomes saturated. And then there is no value because people know it's a short thing. Right? Think of it like the old Bitcoin craze. When people weren't sure what the heck Bitcoin was, you could get it for nothing. Now that people are like, oh, this is valuable. Oh, good luck. You know, getting a whole coin without breaking a serious parties salary. And I think the best things in life really are like that. We kind of have to take a gamble. I look at dating that way, at least for women, a lot of times. You look at a guy and it's like, does this person have potential because of your weight, so the potential is realized. You're going to be competing against the larger pool.
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And then they're going to trust you a lot less. But if you look and you go, okay, they seem, you know, they're not a total loser. They're not like in prison or something. But they aren't really fully realized that there are 30 to 40% or realized sort of 30, 40% short are gonna turn to something and you jump on that and you can act, and you can do it confidently, not like waiting for things to go wrong. Yeah. You'll be rewarded. And that's, that's really the value of confidence that allows you to take advantage of, of those moments when people are just kind of sitting on the sideline going, uh, I don't know. And you can go, I know I'll act boldly. I'll seize the day.
Well, speaking of relationships, I know that you've mentioned in some of your books about your partner, Anna, and how she's such a great supporter. And she helps you with your writing and she does proofreading and she just really supports you. And so what was the process like when you found her? Was there ever a struggle that you went through trying to find a person to be a great partner?
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I think she is a wonderful example of someone looking at a very rough product, unfinished perhaps, not certain if we'd even make it to the end of the race, let alone finish well and going, you know what, I think that's the horse I'm going to bet on. And so there was no struggle. If anything, the struggle was internal because I'm dealing with a person and in my mind, I'm like, okay, I'm still working on things and dealing with things. And perhaps I don't think I bring that much to the table yet, but I knew I would eventually. And one of the things I always say about dealing with her is that I get so used to dealing with a low quality, low caliber that I thought there was something wrong with her when I met her. But you know, as time goes and you just, you learn. It's really like, no, I'm extraordinarily happy in my life and have been for quite some time. And a lot of what I'm able to do is because she lends her support whenever she can.
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