Unshakable Trauma Survival; Wen Peetes

Wen Peetes is an intuitive healing coach, mentor, and speaker whose unshakable trauma survival is a testament to the world. She helps women become powerful decision-makers so they never have to doubt themselves again. As a survivor of childhood abuse, Wen found herself trying to break free from the negative cycle that left her feeling stuck, helpless, and hopeless. Through a series of life-changing events, she found the courage to embrace her darkest secret and the resilience to turn pain into purpose. With her Instagram @rebelforaspell, Wen shares tools of transformation with tailored offerings including her private 1-on-1 coaching program and her private healing retreat.

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Effect On Emotions

Mindfulness helps me because every day, I step into the space of love. My eyes are closed right now. I shut down one of my senses and I just listen to everything that's coming up in my body.
Everything I do not filter, I do not judge. I let the messages come, come, come. And then I say, Hey, what do you want me to do? What are you trying to tell me? And I encourage myself to sit, to explore, and to act in a way that serves the truth in which I'm living in right now. That is love.

Thoughts On Breathing

Breathe with my whole being. Our bodies can breathe in different ways. Our throat, we think of nose, but we can breathe with our entire being if we choose to.
And that quiet listening I was telling you about before, it just helps you to invite your whole heart to breathe in a way that expands it horizontally.
It sounds curious, but invites you to become more loving and connected in such a coherent way with your mind and your heart and your soul. That's never been taught to anybody, never been taught by me, by anybody.
I just discovered it through my practice. And I'm happy to share more if anybody's interested.

Bullying Story

I was a bully for myself. I bullied myself into believing I was not good enough. I was dirty. I was scarred. I was ugly. I was all these things. So I self-bullied myself into believing all the things that the emotions of discomfort and especially shame brought up.
Look at you. Look at how you look. You can't run away from this face. So I dealt with that personally, and through my self-healing, I learned to unravel that. But on top of that, I was bullied in school as well because I had a lot of scars from being physically abused. I have hyperpigmentation.
The scars do not heal quickly at all. It takes decades. So I had a lot of scars littered on my legs and people would point.

My Mother and Bullying

My mother would say to me, she'd hold my hands, her hands in my, her hands around my face. And she said, nobody's better than you. Don't listen to them. She said all the positive things, and that was so confusing to me, Bruce, because I was thinking, but you gave me these scars.
But within her somewhere inside of her, she had the capacity and maybe the compassion, the awareness, to see I'm doing something wrong. I don't know how to fix it. So there's some things in my life I have to clean up so that I don't give this inheritance to my child.
So I'm grateful that she did that because that instilled a little window of oh, I'm okay, I'm not ugly. I'm just different. And I have to figure out how to use a certain cream or she'd help me buy something to deal with it. But bullying is very harmful because it tempts you to believe that everything they say, you are.
And you don't have anywhere else to go but that state of being. So it's very difficult to get through that. For some people it's surrounding themselves with maybe their animals, their plants, or a community of other people. Or finding a coach, finding a therapist, and just finding some creative resource. Sometimes music, laughter, or painting that feeds another emotion of joy, of hope.

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Are you experiencing anxiety & stress? I’m Bruce Langford, a practicing coach and hypnotist helping fast-track people just like you to shed their inner bully and move forward with confidence. Book a Free Coaching Session to get you on the road to a more satisfying life, feeling grounded and focused. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘Time Is Right' in the subject line. We'll schedule a call to discuss how you can move forward to a better life