Building A Love-Filled Relationship

Building a love-filled relationship is the topic today and Valentine's Day is the reason. That's why I'm wearing red and that's why I'm holding up this pink heart. Valentine's Day is very special to me, because I have a special Valentine in my life that I've been married to for a long time. I decided to share with you my ideas about building a love filled relationship.
Here are my top five ways to build a love-filled relationship.
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it is important to be a good listener and to make it look like you're being a good listener. Sometimes you can be a good listener, but maybe you're multitasking or you're doing something else. It can be hard to convince someone that you're listening to them, if it doesn't look like you're listening to them. So when you're listening to your partner, not only listen, but be willing to give meaningful feedback, but only when requested. What I've found is a lot of times, my partner just wants me to listen and that doesn't necessarily mean she always wants feedback. As a guy, and I think this is true for a lot of guys, a lot of times we want to fix whatever the problem is. For example, she may start telling me about a problem or difficulty and and all of a sudden my mind is trying to fix it. And that's not always what your partner might want. Give meaningful feedback, but only when requested. Don't try to solve the problem unless you are asked.

The idea of a leopard with it's strength, agility, stealth, elusiveness, and keen perception reminds me of keen, intense listening.

Be Willing To Change

A lot of times you have to change for your own reasons and for your own purposes and so that you can achieve your own goals. But sometimes, you need to be willing to be flexible enough and be able to let go and be willing to change for your partner. If you truly care you will want to become a better you. Put your heart into your relationship in the very best way that you possibly can,

Make Your Partner Feel Special

Get to know your partner on a deep level. Remember the little things that matter, because usually, there are little things that may seem very minor, but sometimes they can be the most meaningful. Do unexpected special things like maybe do the dishes, pick up some clothes, or wash your partner's car. Be willing to make that extra effort to do those special things.

Go Over And Above

Think what you'd normally do for your partner and then do a bit more. It takes some thought to know what you can do that's over and above, but think outside the box. Be willing to do things that might seem a bit crazy or a bit off the wall. Here's an example. Our bedroom is on the second floor of our home and it looks over our backyard. And so I went out there in the backyard and walked in the snow and put the letters L O V E, and then ‘U'. When she opened the blind and looked out into the backyard, there were these giant letters in the snow that spelled, love you. That was a fun, different thing to do.Things like this can really create awesome memories.

Have Empathy

Imagine what it would be like to get inside the mind and heart of your partner. Just take a few minutes, close your eyes, and think about it. Know what your partner likes, for example is it a special scent, music, sounds of the ocean, sounds of the forest, or is it more visual? Shut your eyes, meditate for a few minutes, and focus only on your partner. Think what comes to mind.

Use the above suggestions to help you build an even more meaningful love-filled relationship. Happy Valentine's Day.

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